Positive discipline is a technique to discipline your children without threatening or giving punishment. It involves effective communication between both parents & children.
Through positive discipline, children are taught to understand the consequences of their behaviour/attitude. Moreover, positive discipline teaches children to be responsible and respect those they interact with within the home and community.
Positive discipline aims to raise children’s attitude awareness and dicipline without giving a reward, threat, or even punishment.
Try these positive disciple tips at home:
- Focus on the child’s good attitude/behavior. Believe there is no such thing as a “Bad Kid.”
- Show them the importance of doing / not doing certain things such as chores, schoolwork, helping around the house.
- If you talk to them about the effects of their actions, (positive or negative), you can help them to develop their thinking and better understand their emotion
- Do not get angry and communicate with love and care. Give understanding and explain your side. It is not reward or punishment but makes them feel involved in the process.
- Make time to connect with your children. Having quality time with them gives you an opportunity to share their interests and for them to share yours. (You will be surprised at what you learn and how much you have in common)
Positive discipline helps children and adults understand that conflict is an opportunity to learn something. If two children are facing a problem, at school or at home, we encourage them to implement problem solving while considering what they learned from positive discipline. He/She will therefore learn to understand each others feelings and take action to resolve the conflict.
These Problem-Solving steps does magic in our classrooms which parents can also apply at home.
- Approach calmly, stopping any hurtful actions.
- Place yourself on the child’s level.
- Use calm voice and gentle touch.
- Remain neutral rather than take sides.
- Acknowledge children’s feelings.
- “You look really upset.”
- Let the children know you need to hold any object in question.
- Gather information.
- “What’s the problem.”
- Restate the problem.
- “So, the problem is…”
- Ask ideas for solution and choose one together.
- “What can we do to solve the problem.”
- Encourage children to think of a solution.
- Be prepared to give follow-up support.
- “You solved the problem!”
- Stay near the children.
We would like to hear your parenting experiences, share us how these tips work with you and your children. Drop a comment below or an email at email@example.com
Conflict Resolution (HighScope, 2017)